10 Ways to Show Respect: Master the Art of Conversation

MPj04230320000[1]Think of someone that you are uncomfortable talking to (could be your co-worker, child, employee, or spouse).

  • Why are they so difficult to talk to?
  • Do you feel defensive?
  • Do they feel listened to?
  • Do you avoid this person?

These are signs that the relationship is lacking trust and respect.

One way to help you have successful, meaningful conversations and relationships is to show respect. Over time, trust will grow.

Now, think about someone you trust.

  • How does this person make you feel?
  • Do you look forward to talking to this person?
  • Do great things happen when you are together?

Next time you have a conversation with your trusting friend, try to see if they do any of the actions below.  How many of these do you use successfully?

  1. Listen, really listen without interrupting.
  2. Make eye contact (not piercing eye contact… make sure it’s comfortable for the other person).
  3. Validate what was said by repeating back in your own words.
  4. Focus on what is being said: Don’t think of what you will say next.
  5. If you need to take notes, ask for permission before your conversation starts.
  6. Find an item that you agree with and tell them you agree with them.
  7. When you don’t agree, ask questions to help clarify or validate your intuition.
  8. Show interest in what is being said (nod, make eye contact, smile, ask questions).
  9. Present your point of view as “another way of looking at things”.
  10. Ask their opinion.

These 10 tips for showing respect work. The key is to practice. Which ones will you try today?

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Post inspired by Juice: Release Your Company’s Intelligent Energy Through Powerful Conversations. By Brady G. Wilson.

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October 12, 2009  Tags: ,   Posted in: Authentic Feedback, Authenticity, Engaging Others, Feedback Tips

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    Excellent tips! I actually have a friend that’s great at offering feedback but sucks at accepting it! As a result, I sometimes have a hard time talking to him and completely shut down! Feedback can be tricky …you have to be able to take it if you want others to be receptive when you dish it out! I may have to share this article with him. Thanks :)

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    Thanks for sharing this post, I really need this one because I myself is always involved onto everyday conversation and RESPECT is one of the biggest positive attitude that I must maintain.

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