Learning to Accept a Gift with Grace
By: Nancy Arruda, Featured Blogger on Ready to Feedback
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|The Christmas season is over and a New Year begins. Christmas is a special time for giving and receiving gifts of every sort. The New Year is usually a time for reflection and looking hopefully into the future. So with the New Year ahead, I have reflected on a few resolutions of my own, one of which I would like to share with you today.To begin, I must say that my twenties were a very difficult period in my life. It’s safe to say that for the most part I was insecure about almost everything, especially how I looked. Self esteem was just something that I had heard about on Oprah but did not possess myself. I remember having purchased a lovely dress once that made me look and feel fabulous. When I received positive feedback about my appearance, I became uneasy and nervous and unsure how to respond. I developed a habit of shyly brushing off compliments or devaluing the outfit I was wearing in an effort to cope.
Take the Flowers When They Come
One day I was having lunch with my cousin who pointed out my little habit. She confessed that she too had been guilty of the same such behaviour and attributed it to the way we were raised. Coming from a poor family, I didn’t have much experience receiving gifts, or compliments, for that matter. “Nancy,” she said, “You have to stop doing that! You need to learn how to simply say thank you and accept a compliment with grace! You can’t effectively give what you’re not willing to receive.” It was a hard lesson to learn but I knew that she was right.
I had another experience where I was responsible for organizing a huge event, which was in the end a huge success. When one of the top bosses called to congratulate me, I once again found it difficult to accept the praise entirely and immediately began to credit every last person on my team who had contributed. “We haven’t seen results like these in a long time,” she said, “This is your leadership, honey. Take the flowers when they come!”
My New Year’s Resolution
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